“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.”Oprah Winfrey
When your friend announces that he got his first freelance client, what do you feel?
When you see your high school friends traveling around the world, even though you were the one always talking about traveling, what do you think?
I know from a first had experience – jealousy and others success, even people’s you don’t know – go hand in hand. Especially, if you allow it to be that way.
Fortunately, you are in control of your emotions. You are in control of how you react to everything that happens around you. You can choose how you want to feel.
There are a lot if things that we can actually learn from other people’s success. Through the Internet, a lot of people share their methods of success. This means, that you have an option to follow through their steps, and try to implement their techniques. In return, it can help you to achieve the same or even greater success. How you want to use this situation, is up to you.
Staying more positive towards other people and their success can bring a lot of benefits to you.
1. Benefit from People’s Experience
Learn from others – gain whatever valuable insight you can from other people and their experience.
Look at people who do what you want to do, and try to replicate it, or even better, seek for their advice to learn their ways of success.
Successful people know that there is value in exchanging ideas and collaborating. This is why a lot of them will be happy to share their knowledge and insight and help you get through frustrating times, when you are just getting started.
Learning from others experience is one of the best ways to improve your own methods of achieving success.
If you want to start freelancing, ask yourself – who are the successful freelancers in your niche? How did they achieve that success? Maybe they have a blog, where they share their steps of success?
Instead of letting your judgement be clouded by jealousy, do your research and see what these people are doing differently from you, read any tips and methods that they share and try to implement them.
If you have questions, don’t hesitate to email them. People might not always respond to you, but if they will, you might get invaluable advice from someone, who succeeded in the area that you want to succeed in.
2. Put Yourself in the Right Situations
Put yourself in situations and surround yourself with people who are ambitious, driven and seek for the same things you do.
If the person in question is someone close to you, think about all the different ways their success can benefit you.
This is not to say that you should only be happy for them if there is something in it for you. Just be mindful of what opportunities others’ success can bring to you. If you surround yourself with negativity, you might miss out on important opportunities that could lead you to success.
Don’t surround yourself with negative people and information.
Instead, surround yourself with people who inspire you, read books and articles that motivate you and don’t get stressed out by the prospect of failing.
3. Prospect of Failing
“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”Lao Tzu
This is something that I experience a lot, so felt necessary to include in the list.
I get anxious about taking action, because I am afraid that a) I will not be able to handle extra work and responsibility coming my way; b) I will fail.
I know that none of these are good reasons to stop myself from doing something.
But a lot of this usually stems from me being jealous of others success, being inpatient with achieving the same things that others did, and being completely scarred that I will never be able to succeed in the same way.
Fear and jealousy is the worst combination for your productivity and motivation. Instead of concentrating on fear and failure, you should concentrate on how much happier you will be, once you will manage to achieve your goal.
No matter the outcome of your actions (and here I am strictly talking about the effort you put in towards reaching your goals), it is always best to stay positive rather than drown yourself in negativity, and feelings of failure and incompetence.
If you want to look more into this, there are plenty of studies that confirm this correlation between positive thinking and success.
4. Jealousy will Lead to Unfulfillment
Jealousy will only cloud your judgement and prevent you from reaching your full potential.
Dwelling on negativity and envy might actually make you more prone to depression, and lead you to do things you wouldn’t normally do.
Don’t compare your life to other people and don’t second guess yourself as this will only delay your progress. Accept that there will always be someone, who, from the side, might look like they are doing better than you. Look at those people as motivation to improve, not as someone to be jealous of.
Separate yourself from negativity. Adopt a mindset that ‘if you don’t have anything nice to think, don’t think at all’.
Celebrating others’ successes creates a sense of optimism within us, it lifts us up instead of putting us down.
Think about it, if other people can do it, it means you can too. You just need to put aside your ego and any negativity, and add a bit of positivity and patience to the mix.
5. A Few Tips on How to Stay Motivated Around Successful People
If you are willing to put in the effort and improve the way your mind works, for your own benefit, I gathered a few things from around the Internet, that can help you stay more positive in the light of others success.
- Focus on the big picture – on days when you feel frustrated, tired or have perform tasks that seem to take you nowhere, take 5 minutes for yourself and think why are you doing this. What is the big picture? What is the main goal you are trying to achieve? Remind yourself you your purpose and your goals, to put your actions in to a context and give them more meaning and direction.
- Get out of your comfort zone to seek for new ideas – visit a new country, go to a part of the city you have never been, seek to meet new people or try a new hobby. Immerse yourself in and environment and surround yourself with people, who motivate and inspire you. Don’t wait for someone to come and rescue you, be your own cheerleader rather than an anchor.
- Be grateful about what you have – gratitude is everywhere, and for a good reason. Don’t overlook your achievements and successes just because you think someone else is doing better. One of the main reasons a lot of people start feeling unhappy about their life is because they forget the great things that they have and are capable of. Don’t forget even the smallest of your achievements, skills and talents, people around you, your family and friends. Appreciate what you have and be thankful.
- Life is not a competition – and you should stop viewing it this way. There are no rewards at the end of the line for the one, who will finish the race first. Your rewards are the ones that you can make for yourself. There is room for all of us. And here is a great article that discuss the benefits of stopping to view life as a competition.
6. To Wrap Up
It might not seem like it, but learning how to be grateful, stay positive and cheer for others’ success can improve your life tremendously.
Jealousy clouds your judgment, and removing that will open your mind for new opportunities and people, who might be able to help you on your journey to success.